Change of Season

What a difference the weather makes. Virtually overnight we transitioned from snow and freezing rain to shorts and t-shirt weather, and it was so energizing to get out of the house and feel the sunshine.

Nick’s latest treatment turned out to be the smoothest so far. On Sunday – two days after chemo – he got out for a 5K walk, and the next day, rode his bike up Merivale to pick up trip planning supplies and stopped for lunch at Harvey’s along the way. The rest of the week he had a couple different sets of friends over, went out for lunch at Panera Bread, won his fourth Fortnite solo with nine kills (this appeared to be an exciting thing), and got a lesson from a friend of ours on how to feed and grow sourdough starter (the results of which will no doubt appear in a future blog post).

Ray and I have been making the most of the warm weather – raking, hauling and chopping wood (there was a bunch of it lying on our front lawn), cleaning out the sugar shack, etc.

Some of you have heard me talk about my “Little Sister” over the years (through the Big Sisters program). She’s all grown up now and had a baby girl a couple of months ago. I decided it was imperative that I travel to Oshawa to meet my new ‘niece’ and get some baby snuggles. She is SO adorable, with big beautiful blue eyes like her mom. They let me cuddle her, but stubbornly refused to let me take her back to Ottawa with me (they promised to visit though).

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15-year  old Sarah holding Nick
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19 years later, with Billy & baby April

And, since I was all the way in Oshawa, it also seemed like a good idea to get together with my big sister, so we squeezed in a 24-hour visit. We booked a B&B in Port Hope and had dinner at a very nice restaurant (Table & Loft). We’re both on different healthy eating ‘programs’, so we could support each other in making healthy choices. Ha ha ha. Just kidding. We both totally blew our programs. We shared a bottle of wine over dinner to celebrate my sister’s promotion at work (and a few other causes we added to the list to justify our decision, none of which I recall now). The evening’s entertainment consisted mostly of me starting to tell a story then losing my thought half-way through. “Oh wait! I remember what I was going to say now.” “What?” “It was…um…wait…I just had it. Nope, I lost it again.” This happened repeatedly. Total brain fog.

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We started the next day with a very non-compliant breakfast, then did penance by going for a long walk around Port Hope. We watched a guy battle a rather feisty rainbow trout, then browsed in a book store, and eventually decided we’d earned ourselves a cream tea (scones, clotted cream and jam).

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Guy who finally landed feisty fish
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My sister, trying to ignore the pecan butter tart cheesecake at the next table

By the time we’d finished our tea, it was windy and rainy outside, but we’d already checked out of the B&B and my train didn’t leave for another six hours, so we decided to check out the neighbouring town of Cobourg. We parked in front of a theatre building and saw people going inside, so we followed them in to see what they were up to. The musical Guys & Dolls was just about to start, so we raced upstairs to the ticket counter. There were only a handful of tickets left, but we got two together and slipped into our seats just as the performers were taking the stage. We were both impressed with the quality of the performances. Great show. We finished our time together with some Thai food and then tea at Tim’s before heading our separate ways, with our spirits higher and our jeans tighter.

 

 

7 thoughts on “Change of Season”

  1. Loved it. 💕
    (And for the record, it was a very long walk!)

    Only 3 more sessions left, Nick! And tons of us supporting you every step of the way. 👍🏻

  2. What a relief for you all in so many ways! The weather, Nicks treatment and that there was at least 2 very good reasons to share that bottle with your sister! The picture of your younger sister and baby Nick is adorable.
    I was thinking about what you said in your last blog and remembering a very poignant life lesson I had many years ago . A friend’s mother died when I was on my 20’s and I bought a card but couldn’t think what to write . Nothing seemed right so I never sent it. I told him a few years later and then he explained how much every card and sentiment given had meant to him and I realised then that I had been cowardly. Years later when I was going through personal tradgy I person who I didn’t know but lived in the same village, knocked on my door and hand delivered a card to say how sad he and his wife were for us. I was gobsmacked and so overwhelmed with gratitude. I know we can all struggle to know what to say, and I also know that the possible embarrassment felt by the ” well wisher” is a drop in the ocean compared to the pain the person or family is going through.
    I “love”hearing your news whether it about the delights of Nicks culinary journey , or the poignancy of your honesty in sharing your fears and feelings through this frightening episode of Nicks treatment. Thank you Carolyn so much for your words xx

    1. Thanks Lou. I learned something from writing that post. Reaching out to people when they’re vulnerable isn’t really about personality differences, since two of the people I had in mind when I talked about ‘the other end of the emotional openness spectrum’ have since shared their own experiences very similar to mine (you being one of them). The common factor seems to be that the event we now regret happened in our youth and it took each of us experiencing our own losses to really understand the impact of that support in times of need. xo

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